“Be like water making its way through cracks. Do not be assertive, but adjust to the object, and you shall find a way around or through it. If nothing within you stays rigid, outward things will disclose themselves.
Empty your mind, be formless. Shapeless, like water. If you put water into a cup, it becomes the cup. You put water into a bottle and it becomes the bottle. You put it in a teapot, it becomes the teapot. Now, water can flow or it can crash. Be water, my friend.”
– Bruce Lee
Many times in life, I feel people try to make events, projects, careers and relationships live up to a high expectation that they have created for themselves. They try so hard to make things perfect or at least match what they have envisioned. Is that wrong? Didn’t I make a post on the power of visualization? I don’t think it’s wrong to visualize and dream, then strive for that vision to become a reality. In fact, I think that’s an effective practice. I believe it becomes problematic when expectation is born. When people begin to expect things to be a certain way they can become so attached to the dream that if reality does not measure up, they see their efforts as a failure or waste of time. As cliche as it may sound, the only way you can truly fail is if you don’t try.
Create a dream, visualize it to completion, plan for it, give maximum effort… then let it go. What happens next doesn’t matter. The outcome doesn’t matter. What matters is that you followed your intuition, exercised your creativity, and attempted to manifest that vision into reality. Create, develop, let go. Release it into the world with no expectations. Developing expectations can lead to disappointment. Sometimes they can create limits as well. Be like water, go with the flow, and let what will happen, happen. One day your dreams and reality will align and you will have “success” in the traditional sense. However, every time you follow those steps above all the way through, you have succeeded — for most people never try at all.